# What to Say in an Engagement Party Toast (With Examples)

An engagement party toast is short and warm: one to two minutes. Welcome or thank the hosts, tell how the couple met or a moment that shows they fit, say what you wish for them, and raise your glass. Save the big stories for the wedding speeches.

By the Speaking Coach team at Sodhera Intelligence. Updated 2026-10-22. Source: https://www.orecci.com/speaking-coach/speeches/engagement-party-toast/

## Keep it short and save the best for later

An engagement party is the first public celebration of the couple, and often the first time the two families and friend groups meet. It's casual, people are mingling, and there may be more parties to come. The toast should feel like a warm welcome, not a wedding speech. One to two minutes is plenty.

If you're also in the wedding party, hold back your best story. You'll want it for the [maid of honour](/speaking-coach/speeches/maid-of-honor-speech/) or best man speech.

## Who usually speaks

| Speaker | Role at the party | What to focus on | Length |
| --- | --- | --- | --- |
| Host (often a parent) | Opens and welcomes | Welcome, thanks, the couple, the other family | 1 to 2 minutes |
| The other set of parents | Optional reply | Thanks to the hosts, warm words for their child's partner | 1 minute |
| A close friend | Optional | How they met, or the moment you knew | 1 minute |
| The couple | Often closes | Thanks for coming, a word to each other | 30 to 60 seconds |

## The structure

1. **Get attention and welcome (10 seconds).** "If I could have everyone's attention for one minute…"
2. **Thanks (15 seconds).** To the guests, or to the hosts if you're not hosting.
3. **The couple (45 seconds).** How they met, or one moment that showed you they were right together.
4. **The families (15 seconds).** A warm word for the other family, especially if this is the first time everyone's met.
5. **The toast (10 seconds).** "Please raise your glasses to…"

That's about 90 seconds, or 180 to 220 words.

## Example toasts

These are made-up examples. Change the names and details.

### Example: host parent (about 90 seconds)

> "If I could have everyone's attention for just a minute. Thank you all for coming. I'm Paul, Emily's dad, and Jean and I are so happy to have you in our home.
>
> Emily and Kofi met at a friend's birthday dinner three years ago. She called me the next morning, which she never does, to tell me she'd met someone who'd talked to her for three hours about bridges. She thought that was a good sign. I wasn't so sure. Then I met Kofi, and twenty minutes later I was hearing about bridges too, and I was hooked.
>
> To Kofi's parents, Ama and Kwame: it's wonderful to finally have you here. We've heard so much about you that it feels like we've already met.
>
> Everyone, please raise your glasses to Emily and Kofi, and to many more long dinners."

### Example: a close friend (about 1 minute)

> "Hi, everyone, I'm Nina, I've been Emily's friend since we were twelve. I won't tell any stories tonight, because I'm saving them all for the wedding. I'll just say this: I've seen Emily date people who made her smaller. Kofi makes her bigger, louder and happier. That's all I've ever wanted for her. To Emily and Kofi."

### Example: a short toast from the other family (about 45 seconds)

> "I'm Ama, Kofi's mum. Thank you, Paul and Jean, for opening your home tonight. Emily, the first time Kofi brought you home, you asked me to teach you my groundnut soup. Nobody has ever asked. Welcome to our family. To the two of you."

### Example: the couple, at the end (about 30 seconds)

> "We just want to say thank you for being here. Most of you have been asking when this would happen for at least a year. Now you know. We're so lucky to have all of you. Enjoy the night."

## What to talk about (and what to skip)

**Good material:**
- How they met, in one or two sentences.
- The moment you knew, or the moment they told you.
- What they're like together, in one detail.
- A welcome to the other family.

**Skip:**
- Wedding planning, dates and budgets. Nobody needs a logistics update.
- Exes, or "finally!" jokes that suggest it took too long.
- Long stories that need lots of background. Guests are standing with drinks.
- Embarrassing stories. Many guests are meeting the couple's families for the first time.

## Mistakes to avoid

| Mistake | Why it hurts | Instead |
| --- | --- | --- |
| A five-minute speech | It's a party, not a ceremony; people are standing | 90 seconds, then the toast |
| Using your best wedding story | You'll have nothing left for the wedding | A smaller moment, or how they met |
| Talking only about your side | The other family feels like guests, not family | Name them and welcome them |
| Toasting with no attention | Half the room keeps talking | Tap a glass, wait for quiet, then start |
| Forgetting to end with the toast | Guests don't know when to drink | "Please raise your glasses to…" |

## Before you speak

1. Say it out loud with a timer. Ninety seconds feels short on paper and long when you're nervous.
2. Ask someone to help gather the room. In a house party, it can take a minute to get people's attention.
3. Keep your glass in your hand, and have one ready for the couple.

For the general formula that works at any celebration, see [how to give a toast](/speaking-coach/speeches/how-to-give-a-toast/). If you'd like a rehearsal, Speaking Coach has an "Open a presentation or toast" scene: you say it out loud to a listening audience and see your pace and filler words afterwards.

## Questions people ask

### Who gives a toast at an engagement party?

Usually the host, often a parent of one of the couple. The other set of parents, close friends and the couple themselves may also say a few words.

### How long should an engagement party toast be?

One to two minutes. It's a casual celebration, and you want to leave room for the wedding speeches later.

### What do you say in an engagement toast?

Thank the guests or hosts, say a little about how the couple met or what makes them good together, welcome the other family, and raise your glass to the couple.

### Should the couple give a speech at their engagement party?

It's a nice touch but not required. A short thank-you of 30 to 60 seconds at the end of the toasts is enough.

### Can I tell a funny story in an engagement toast?

A short, kind one, yes. Keep the longer, funnier stories for the wedding, and avoid anything that could embarrass the couple in front of new in-laws.

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